https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2020-01/uop-anl010320.php
"Why do some children have more difficulties understanding others'
emotions or feeling sorry after misbehaving? Why do some act out in
certain situations and behave in others? How should adults respond in
these circumstances?"
Via Sheila Nagig, who wrote:
"Yikes. From this I conclude that the authoritarian parenting style
produces antisocial behavior in kids, who grow up to be antisocial
adults. Authoritarian parenting is just all kinds of messed up in terms
of what it does to developing personalities. It can be a mixed bag. One
kid might become aggressive and fearless and feel no empathy toward
others because they feel no attachment. They might learn how to lie more
convincingly or manipulate because getting their needs met through
direct means doesn’t work.Frequent arbitrary and random punishment
without any justification given makes the punishment just meaningless
violence. Threats don’t work at that stage because it was going to
happen anyway regardless and the kid knows it. Kids with authoritarian
parents never learn what real respect looks like because all they’re
taught is obedience under threat of violence. They don’t learn necessary
social skills because things like spending time together just to get to
know one another is missing in authoritarian households. They don’t
learn empathy because emotional attachment is also discouraged.
Personally I think that authoritarian parenting should be banned,
because the results it produces are damaging to society and the kids
would turn out better if they were raised by a pack of dogs.
Authoritarian parenting is like old-fashioned horse-breaking. It’s about
breaking the will of the child. All it does is turn out broken adults."
Cheers,
*** Xanni ***
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mailto:xanni@xanadu.net Andrew Pam
http://www.xanadu.com.au/ Chief Scientist, Xanadu
http://www.glasswings.com.au/ Partner, Glass Wings
http://www.sericyb.com.au/ Manager, Serious Cybernetics
