https://reasonstobecheerful.world/a-surprising-way-to-stop-bullying/
"When Ben was 11 years old, his parents noticed that his grades dropped. He
stopped talking about school. On Sunday evenings, he often complained about
stomach aches and begged his mom to keep him home the next day.
“These are all typical signs there might be a bullying problem,” says Bettina
Dénervaud, co-founder of the Swiss initiative Hilfe bei Mobbing, which
translates as “Help with Bullying.” She and her two colleagues use a 30-point
checklist to evaluate if there is an underlying issue of mental, emotional and
physical bullying or something else — maybe a conflict, which might require
conflict resolution. “A conflict is usually resolved in a matter of days or
weeks, but bullying can go on for months or even years,” Dénervaud says.
What happens next sounds counterintuitive. Instead of being punished, the
bullies are invited to help the bullied student. In a 2008 study that looked at
220 bullying cases, the No-Blame Approach, as this method is known, was
successful in 192, or 87 percent, of the cases. In most schools that were
evaluated, it only took two or three weeks for the bullying to stop.
It was the stunning success rate that prompted Bettina Dénervaud to sign up for
training with mediator Detlef Beck in 2016 and to start a consulting office for
bullying in 2019."
Cheers,
*** Xanni ***
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mailto:xanni@xanadu.net Andrew Pam
http://xanadu.com.au/ Chief Scientist, Xanadu
https://glasswings.com.au/ Partner, Glass Wings
https://sericyb.com.au/ Manager, Serious Cybernetics
