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"4B, a South Korean feminist movement that rejects toxic social norms
propagated by the patriarchy — refusing heterosexual marriage, dating, sex, and
childbirth — has started gaining global attention.
Originally from South Korea, I moved to Japan, but eventually, I left both
countries due to their deeply misogynistic cultures. However, I found
inspiration in Korean and Japanese feminists.
In my mid-30s, I became familiar with the concept of 4B in the late 2010s when
fourth-wave feminism gained significance in South Korea.
Before then, I had internalized the idea that I needed to be attractive to men,
find a suitable husband, and get married before 30, have two children, buy a
van, get a mortgage, and maintain a ‘normal’ happy family.
My efforts to achieve these goals left me with deep scars. I developed an
eating disorder to stay skinny, endured serious verbal abuse and betrayal from
men, and ultimately developed clinical depression.
Even after this, I continued dating men because the media and my friends kept
feeding me poor ideas like ‘You will find Mr. Right,’ and ‘You’re a loser if
you don’t date.’ I kept subjecting myself to bad relationships just to meet
societal expectations of being a normal woman.
Then I discovered 4B — I removed toxic people from my life and started treating
myself as a human — and now, I couldn’t be happier.
I actively try to understand my wants and needs, filling my life with things I
enjoy. My depression has improved.
4B literally saved my life."
Cheers,
*** Xanni ***
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mailto:xanni@xanadu.net Andrew Pam
http://xanadu.com.au/ Chief Scientist, Xanadu
https://glasswings.com.au/ Partner, Glass Wings
https://sericyb.com.au/ Manager, Serious Cybernetics
