"When lonely people do socialise, they are more likely to engage in
self-defeating actions, such as being less cooperative, and show more
negative emotions and body language. This is done in an (often
unconscious) attempt to disengage and protect themselves from rejection.
Lonely people are also more likely to find reasons people cannot be
trusted or do not live up to particular social expectations, and to
believe others evaluate them more negatively than they actually do."
Via Muse, who wrote:
"Our capitalist society thrives on social anxiety in order to sell
things. It also pushes the myth of meritocracy, so win or lose we are
taught to believe we deserve what we had coming. So we are endlessly
being judged. Is it any surprise that we avoid one another?
I have seen studies that show when elderly people spend less time with
others, they become more socially anxious, and therefore want to spend
even less time with others in an ever more isolating spiral.
Don’t get lost like this! Please, understand that some of us are more
than happy to hang out, even if you only feel safe to meet up for
fifteen-thirty minutes. The very worst belief is that someone must not
be worth hanging out with, if they want to hang out with you. You insult
yourself and the other person."
*** Xanni ***
Chief Scientist, Xanadu
Partner, Glass Wings
Manager, Serious Cybernetics