"Unfortunately, our anxieties about the ways others may perceive our own words
can prevent us from giving compliments ourselves. No one, after all, wants to
come across as clumsy, patronising or fawning.
“Compliments are the easiest way to make other people – and, as a result,
ourselves – feel better,” says Nicholas Epley, a professor of behavioural
science at the University of Chicago. “But when a kind thought comes to mind,
people often don’t say it.”
Yet three new studies on the psychology of compliment giving and receiving
suggest that our fears about the ways our praise will be received are
completely unfounded. And by letting go of that awkwardness, we could all enjoy
better relationships with our friends, family members and colleagues."
Via Esther Schindler.
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