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"Should you marry that person? Quit a steady career to retrain? Move across the
country, away from ageing parents? Sit with any of these and watch your mind
spin. You weigh what you’d gain against what you’d lose. You run the numbers.
And still no answer arrives.
Big decisions do this to us. They are rare, life-shaping, and hard to undo, and
they refuse to be solved like a sum.
Researchers recently used AI to analyse more than 100,000 real dilemmas posted
online. They found choices pulled in dozens of directions at once, far from the
tidy two or three variables we imagine. Big decisions are messier than they
look.
I study how people make life’s biggest decisions. In research, I asked more
than 600 people to describe their ten biggest decisions. Thousands more have
since mapped their own choices in an ongoing study. Marriage, children, career
changes, house purchases, and relocations come up again and again.
My study didn’t hand me a checklist you can use when faced with a big decision.
But it did show what separates the decisions people are later glad of from
those they regretted. Read alongside the wider research, those factors fall
into a rough order worth trying."
Cheers,
*** Xanni ***
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mailto:xanni@xanadu.net Andrew Pam
http://xanadu.com.au/ Chief Scientist, Xanadu
https://glasswings.com.au/ Partner, Glass Wings
https://sericyb.com.au/ Manager, Serious Cybernetics
